This blog was created as I went on a path to create a happy me. When I started this all, I was miserable. I took control of my life, and meal planned myself happy (that whole story is here). That was 2 years ago… and up until 6 ish months ago, I was on the healthy happy train.
But, life happens, things change, and you need to adjust.
Last summer, I lost a baby and struggled hard with some mental health issues. I struggled for FAR too long before I saw my doctor and finally got the support I needed. While I am on the mend now, it has been a hard time.
In this time, I slipped back into some old habits that didn’t make me happy. I stopped doing the things that make me happy. I stopped going to spin. I stopped going to yoga, I stopped being social with my friends. I stopped posting regularly on my blog. I stopped taking selfies (even the super flattering snapchat ones!).
I stopped it all.
If you follow me on social media, or know me in real life, this might be complete shocker to you because things on social media look awesome. Yes, they do, because when I did find happy in a day or a week, I posted about it. In real life, I am really good at faking it. I have faked happy ALOT and it’s a skill I have mastered.
I didn’t Facebook live when I was crying and afraid, and I didn’t put my feelings of wanting to quit my blog on my Instagram Story. I didn’t post that stuff in an effort to hide it.
I did that because I didn’t want to put my negative energy out in the world to spread, AND I was focusing hard to find my own happy each day, and my social media posts where a way for me to think each day and focus on the good.
So… there it is. Now what?
Well, I have been doing 4 things to reclaim my happy and I am sharing those today to hopefully inspire ONE person to make their shift today.
1. Talk to someone.
Seek help… even if you don’t think it is “that bad” and you probably don’t need help. It can be hard to admit you have depression or anxiety, but I promise that once you can call it what it is, and line up the supports, you can work your way to feeling SO MUCH BETTER.
There are more people feeling just like you. More than you will ever believe.
2. Create and schedule time for the things that create your happiness.
For me, this means scheduling the time on Sunday to prep the healthy meals that make me feel good during the week AND create a less hectic week. This also means scheduling spin and yoga into my life.
I recently started going back to spin at Push Cycling Studios in Airdrie and I forgot that I had a little family there. A family that welcomes you back as if there was no break.
3. Surround yourself with positive energy and like-minded people.
Unfollow those facebook friends that only post complaints. Better yet, unfriend those people that bring you down. Despite the old saying “opposites attract”, I believe the opposite. Surround yourself with positive energy, and you yourself will have positive energy. Have you ever had a conversation with someone, and walked away exhausted and negative. Those are the conversations and people to avoid.
When I hang around people who are living their good life and projecting good into the world, I am motivated, I am energized, and I am happy.
4. Stay off the scale and make some non scale related goals.
I can’t even tell you the last time I got on a scale.
I was finding that no matter what was happening on the scale it was never good enough, so I changed the way I measure progress to focus on the positive.
Did I stick to my limit of “adult beverages”? Did I go shopping and LOVE the way I was feeling? Did I pass by the treat table at work and not regret eating my body weight in jelly beans? Did I go to spin and hit my max watts this week? Was I able to finally master pushups? (ps. The answer to this is still no).
Being in a rut is hard. It is hard to pull yourself out…. But, these are the few things I did to take control in a time when I didn’t even want control…. which NEVER happens!
I hope this post can help someone find their way in a time that feels mostly hopeless!
I really don’t mean to be a Debbie downer here….but it is real life. I am a real person. With real life challenges….and I am not as perfect as my Sunday fridge on Instagram looks!